Stylist: My brother died by suicide. This Grief Awareness Day, I want everyone to know the signs of when someone is struggling.

Originally published on Stylist.co.uk

Today (30 August) marks Grief Awareness Day. Here, Alice Hendy MBE, founder of crisis intervention charity R;pple, explores the grief of losing her brother to suicide, why she’s on a mission to support other people and their mental health, and the signs that might indicate someone you know is struggling.

Content note: the following article contains references to suicide that readers might find upsetting.

Mental health is something every single one of us will experience challenges with at some point in our lives. When someone is struggling, they may feel isolated, hopeless or convinced that nobody understands what they are going through. By looking out for others, whether that’s noticing changes in their behaviour, checking in or simply offering a listening ear, we remind people that they are not alone.

Human connection can be lifesaving. I lost my brother to suicide, and I know how much of a difference it can make if someone steps in at the right time. A small act of kindness or concern can truly change the trajectory of someone’s day, or even their life.

The signs can be subtle, which is why it’s so important to be observant. Someone might withdraw from social situations, stop engaging in activities they once enjoyed or appear unusually tired or distracted. They may talk negatively about themselves, express feelings of hopelessness or say things like “What’s the point?” Changes in routine, such as neglecting personal appearance, eating differently or sleeping far more or less than usual, can also be warning signs. In young people, teachers or friends might notice declining performance or frequent absences.

None of these signs on their own mean someone is suicidal, but together they may point to someone needing support. Trust your instincts: if something feels ‘off’, it’s worth reaching out.

When someone’s life may be at risk, hesitation can be dangerous. People sometimes worry that they’ll say the wrong thing, overreact or upset the person further. But reaching out to professionals shows care and can provide vital support. You don’t need to have all the answers yourself, but you can be the bridge to those who do. Making that call or sending that message could be the action that keeps someone safe long enough for them to find hope again.

Stigma still stops far too many people from speaking openly about their mental health. We need to normalise conversations in schools, workplaces and among families so that asking for help is seen as a strength, not a weakness. Leaders and role models sharing their own struggles can make a huge difference – it shows others that they’re not alone, and that recovery is possible.

Education is also key. The more we talk about mental health in the same way we talk about physical health, the more it becomes part of everyday conversation. Lasting change will come when every one of us feels comfortable saying, “I’m struggling,” and confident they’ll be met with understanding, not judgment.

Alice Hendy MBE is the founder of R;pple, an award-winning digital crisis intervention tool designed to intercept distressing internet searches relating to suicide and self-harm. When a user searches for harmful content, R;pple discreetly intervenes and sign posts to free, 24/7 mental health support services and resources.

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